The Coronavirus Crisis Make Family Stress Worse
If you are struggling more than usual with worry for your family right now, you are not alone. Even if you or a loved one have not been personally affected by the virus, you may feel like you are sitting in wait for the other shoe to drop.
So many of us are worried about getting infected. You may fear that germs can be transmitted via surfaces, clothing, food or the air. There seems to be no definitive answers to your questions, which makes it difficult to know exactly how to keep your family safe. This feeling of being out of control is a parenting nightmare.
And, if you and your loved ones are safe, you might be sheltering at home together 24X7, and that brings a whole lot of stress in addition to already trying to manage challenging episodes from your gifted children. Their advanced intellect may cause them to ask more questions than usual and worry more intensely.
Helping you manage this additional stress and come out of this Coronavirus crisis intact as a family, is something I can currently do via online therapy.
Reach out if you would like to chat with me to see if working together at this time or in the future makes sense for you and your family.
The Reality of Being a Parent of a Gifted Child
As the parent of a gifted or twice-exceptional (2e) child, you are the one who does everything. With every meltdown, the yelling and the crying, the slamming of doors, you feel like you are losing ground with your own sanity, never finding a moment of peace.
Even with all of your experience, you find yourself losing your temper and your patience more than you would like and it leaves you feeling ashamed. You worry about their future and how they will navigate the world as they become an adult. You feel like you are failing your child and your family. You are exhausted and no one else understands what it is like with your child.
The Hope of a Parent of a Gifted Child
In my counseling with gifted students’ parents, I help to integrate past experiences into a more positive, self-understanding. Changing the way you tell your story, infused with self-compassion, acceptance and tenderness, can change the way you see yourself. In turn, breaking the cycle of pain will change the way you are with your child.
Together we will face the feelings of exhaustion, fear, sadness, envy, resentment, guilt, anger, loneliness and trauma of parenting a gifted or 2e child. You will experience what it is like to be understood, to talk to yourself in a more loving and kind way. I will guide you to set the boundaries you need in your home and with your child to manage the emotional intensities.
Avoid the alternative:
I am sure you have heard that old saying, “put your own oxygen mask on first.” If you don’t get help to work through the personal issues that challenge your parenting, you will continue to suffer, as will your relationship with your child. Your own emotions will surge at unexpected times, nagging at you when your child is not being challenged at school. You will erupt in anger when your child is misunderstood and swell with anxiety as you lie in bed at night worrying about the future.
If you are ready to stop suffering in silence and find relief and support, I am here to help. You can contact me here, to connect via email. Or, feel free to give me a call at (626) 755-4059 for a FREE 20-minute, initial phone consultation.
Let’s talk before you have another yelling match or before you start to swell up with anxiety and worry.
Working with me:
I am the parent of three gifted young adults. I traveled down the 2e road in a very personal way with my girls. There were times when I felt traumatize, triggered and in pain. Even so, I knew better than to give up. Parenting challenged every part of my soul, even with my twenty plus years of experience with severely abused and neglected children and traumatized families. It is from this lens of trauma, both personal and professional, that I come to my counseling for gifted students’ parents.
I offer sessions in my office in Arcadia, as well as online therapy through a secure and private video conferencing platform.
LGBTQIA+ affirming therapy is a core value of my practice.